Monthly Archives: September 2009

Uncovering Blocks to Abundance in Your Life, Part 1

Abundance is expressed in many forms.  Money, a loving family, supportive friends, doting pets, and a vibrant garden are all manifestations of abundance. It’s my experience that creating abundance takes more than simply repeating a mantra such as “I will make one million dollars this year.” 

Creating abundance starts with getting curious about the paradigms you unconsciously created when you were a child.  These paradigms imprinted  ideas about your worthiness to be abundant.  I use the phrase “the limiter” to characterize the imprints from childhood which today act like a straight-jacket preventing you from living a full and abundant life. For example, if you observed your mother anxious and gruff with you when she was writing checks, you may carry that anxiety to your own bill-paying.  If you heard your father say “we never have enough” your limiter may tell you “I never have enough.”  And most importantly, if your parents weren’t capable of giving you the love and support you needed as a child, you may be faced with a sense of inadequacy and feeling like your productivity in the world is not worth what it’s really worth.  Your limiter will tell you that you really don’t deserve so much.

Most of us weren’t raised with the idea that we are entitled to all the abundance the universe offers by our very nature as a Spiritual Being. 

The good news is that you can change your imprints. 

Next time,  more about uncovering ways which you block abundance in your life.

 

Stress – Five Misconceptions, Five Ways to Cope.

Woman doing Yoga“It’s not the events in themselves that cause your distress, but rather the view you have of the events.”

 

Five Misconceptions about Stress:

1.  You always know when you’re under stress.  Often you become so accustomed to stress that you’re unaware of it.  You can suffer the effects even though you don’t feel tense.  Stress often changes the way you treat others (impatient/dismissive) even in the absence feeling anxiety.

 2.  Stress is something which affects only those who have high-pressure lives.  Many ordinary individuals experience the constant stress of worry, leading unfulfilled lives or of not being what they would like to be.

 3.  The only reliable way to lower stress is to change your surroundings or to take medication.  Actually, the most reliable and effective way of reducing stress is to change your outlook on life.  Stress comes from the way in which you perceive the world.

 4.  Stress is caused by events that happen to you.  Paraphrasing the philosopher Epictetus, it’s not the events in themselves that cause your distress, but rather the view you have of the events.

 5.  Emotions have a will of their own and can’t be controlled.  You can change your feelings by first changing your behavior.  You can act your way into different thinking.  For example, getting an hour of work done can keep you from worrying about it.  Creating a new understanding of a situation can make it less threatening or stressful.

Five Ways to Cope with Stress:Happy Girl

1.  Take a few minutes throughout the day when you feel stressed to close your eyes and breathe.

2.  Give your self the gift of massage or yoga.

3.  Schedule rest into your day and make it a priority.

4.  Say NO to social commitments that you feel obligated to go to but not excited about.

5.  Play with your dog/cat/child or your inner child!

Buying a New Home? Ten Feng Shui Guidelines to help to choose a great home.

crowncrest buyer1.    Look for the surrounding area to give you the “armchair” form. Your home should feel like it is sitting nestled in the seat of a nice comfy armchair with support in the back, strong arms on each side, and a level seat, with the area in front open and unobstructed.

2.     The house should not be located too high above the street or too low below the street.

3.    Streets that have light traffic which moves slowly are preferable to high traffic areas.  And look for gently winding streets to bring energy to you easier than straight streets do.

4.     It is preferable not to have a house on a  “T” junction.

5.    The master bedroom is best located in the back of the house and on the ground floor.

 6.    The house will be more likely to enjoy prosperity if it has an open floor plan which allows plenty of area for circulation.

 7.    To avoid conflict between parents and children, it is best to avoid having their respective bedroom doors facing each other.

8.     The house will bring more joy if it is light and bright with plenty of windows.

 9.    It is better for prosperity not to have a staircase directly facing the front door.

 10.  A curved walkway to the front door rather than a straight path is desirable.  Avoid homes with trees blocking the front door.

The key to selling your home.

Selling your home this year?   As a Realtor® in Austin, TexasSold Sign, I’ve worked with sellers living in fear throughout the process, particularly in the current real estate market.  Good news!  You don’t have to let fear and anxiety take over your life when selling your home.   Internalizing the principles of trust, detachment, abundance, and acceptance not only change your selling experience – they will change your life.

First – Trust your Realtor’s knowledge of the current market conditions and accept the reality of selling your home for less than you may think it’s worth (particularly if you’ve lived there for less than five years).

Second – Accept market statistics showing the facts about home sales prices in your particular neighborhood for the last three to six months.

Third – Trust that this is a benevolent and abundant universe.  If your profit is less than expected, you will be okay.  You are always being taken care of.

Fourth – Detach from any emotional connection to the house and put your focus on moving to your next home.  Bless it and let it go.

We all have varying degrees of emotional attachment to our home.  However, if you need or want to sell your home, think of it as a commodity and not as “your home.”  You can carry the memories you’ve made there to your next home if you choose to.

For most of us, “our home” really never is “our home” because it’s owned by the mortgage company. 

Trust, Accept, and Detachment WILL change your life and will absolutely change your selling experience.

Save money instantly by sealing air leaks in your home.

10 ways - DoorsAir escapes through every hole and crack in your home. Warm air leaking into your home during the summer and out of your home during the winter can waste a lot of your money. One of the quickest and cheapest dollar saving tasks you can do is caulk, seal, and weather strip all seams, cracks, and openings to the outside. 

 Tips for Sealing Air Leaks:

1- First, test your home for air tightness.  On a windy day, carefully hold a lit incense stick next to windows, doors, electrical boxes, plumbing fixtures, attic hatches, and other locations where there is a possible air path to the outside.  If the smoke streams horizontally, you’ve located an air leak that may need caulking, sealing, or weather-stripping.

2- Caulk and weather strip doors and windows that leak air.

3- Caulk and seal air leaks where plumbing, ducting, or electrical wiring penetrates through walls, ceilings, and soffits over cabinets.

4- Install foam gaskets behind outlet and switch plates on walls.

5- Look for dirty spots in your insulation, which often indicate holes that allow air leaks.  You can seal the holes with low-expansion spray foam made for this purpose.

6- Look for dirty spots on your ceiling paint and carpet, which may air leaks at interior wall/ceiling joints and wall/floor joists.  These joints can be caulked.

 7- Use foam sealant around larger gaps around windows, baseboards, and other places where  air may be leaking out.

 8- When you’re not using your fireplace, keep the flue tightly close.  Inflatable chimney balloons are designed to fit beneath your fireplace flue during periods of non-use.  They’re made from plastic and can be removed easily and reused hundreds of times.

About one-third of leaking air infiltrates through openings in your ceilings, walls, and floors.   Take a Saturday morning to check your air leaks – it will be well worth your time and savings on your next electricity bill.